Being A woman is so hard In Igboland, In Nigeria. Just grow up as a girl child, especially an igbo girl child is just soo fucking hard.
***When the woman DIES, It's Death But Once The Man DIES, It's the woman's fault in Igbos & Nigerians***
On the day you were born, the men wish it was a boy. When it's a girl child, you hear things like, a child is a child, Pikin na pikin, but when it's a boy child you hear the men and women screaming at the top of their voice and hailing the father of the child.
***I KNOW THE SEX OF A BABY IN IGBO LAND WHEN ITS A BOY OR GIRL WITHOUT ANYONE TELLING ME. THE FEELINGS AROUND TELLS YOU***
As you grow older, you are reminded, seat like a girl, stand like a girl, eat like a girl, sweep like a girl, greet men bending down like a girl, cook like a girl and future woman, don't you know that you will marry someday and you must cook well for your husband?
Then, you are about to marry, you kneel down for the man and give him palm-wine, they sell you off with a bride price like some cheap commodity, all your education without a man MEANS NOTHING, they remind you. You do only what your New owner and master say. You go through childbirth, body drained, transformation, pains of motherhood, 24 hours wifely duties and be a prayerful obedient wife and do everything.
Death comes because of its inevitable, You Husbandman dies, They say you killed him! Just Like that, no prove, no questions asked, quick conclusions and Gbam! You are GUILTY. You must explain how your husbandman died and take some Oaths and SWEAR that you did not kill him. Your children, gathered around you are crying and saying that it is Tradition.
They shave your head amidst tears, pains, hurt you. (Another whole Topic) You are gonna remain in one set of colouring for clothing, black or white, mourning your husband. Public widow. In some cultures, you must stay at home and not go to the market or your business and no food for your kids, in some other cases, the husbands family comes to take everything your husband had from you.
Yes! That's your curse, that's your crime in life, YOU WERE BORN WITH A VAGINA AND NOT A PENIS. You are Guilty from birth, why - Because You were Born A Woman!!!
***I won't stop Talking & all these slavery and inhumanity must stop and Your husband has Rights to wear his own white/black to mourn you or END THAT BULLSHIT SLAVERY***
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